Sometimes in our lives, we have all noticed the absence of something or someone in our lives, which creates that feeling of emptiness that you have, which can be a transitory product of a loss, or it can also be permanent when you do not know the reasons for your existence because you have lost, without realizing it, that internal energy that drives your life, it is no longer part of you.
That emptiness can have its origin in loneliness, which is the absence of something or someone important in life. We can also say that this emptiness is the result of not understanding or accepting the real purpose of your life and the things that give meaning to it. When you suppress the biological self in favor of the mental self, that feeling of emptiness is always part of your life.
But when you suppress the mental self, to please the biological self, the void becomes part of your life. As children, we are biologically programmed to serve the biological self, as adults, we are mentally programmed to serve the mental self. Only the balance between the biological self and the mental self can produce harmony in our lives.
As a biological creature, your innate instincts are the engine behind everything you do, feel and want without thinking about it because your biological self is in control of your life. Automatic bodily reactions do not fall under the mental self, as they have their own biologically programmed internal motivations that are not determined by your rational mind.
There are also a series of learned behaviors which can be under the control of the rational mind where thinking and personal experience are factors that can be decisive, but also the psychosocial motivations that are behind this behavior. This is where each of the things or behaviors that we emit in what we do has a motivation behind which serves as an engine that drives the body to execute these behaviors.
When what you do or think is not driven by an internal or external stimulus that is rewarding in nature, that feeling of emptiness neutralizes that energy that is needed to fill these mentally motivated needs, as is the case with aspirations and expectations. that everyone has. That feeling of emptiness which is part of your life only exists in you because you have lost the connection between the biological self and the mental self.
When you deny or repress the biological motivations that move your life without your knowing it, you are also repressing all the behaviors associated with them. The first step to break with that feeling of emptiness that controls your life is to release all those emotions associated
with the biological self that is part of you, both the negative ones as well as the positive ones and the experiences associated with these emotions considered irrational such as pain, sorrow, anger, jealousy, laughter and sadness.
As human beings, we have learned so much to suppress our emotions that there is only a feeling of emptiness in us when we need that internal energy associated with emotions. As a way to fill that void that exists in you, everything begins by letting go of those negative and positive emotions suppressed by you as a protection mechanism, avoiding not only physical or emotional damage but also mental damage.
Learning to release the hate, fear, anger, jealousy, pain, suffering, and laughter that exist in you is the best way to release the energy that is associated with your suppressed emotions, which produces in you that feeling of emptiness that controls your life. As a human being, if you want to fill that void that is controlling your life right now, you must create the strategies in which finding a balance between your mental self and your biological self is necessary to improve your general well-being, not only from a biological perspective but also from a mental perspective.
There is no doubt that establishing the internal harmony that you are looking for in which both the mental self and the biological self, are seen as an important parts of yourself is a challenge that you can overcome by loving both parts equally and recognizing the importance that both have on you when you talk about emotional stability.
Why should there be a balance between paying attention to the biological self and the mental self or what some call the inner self?
When the void is part of us at a certain moment, some of us have a tendency to only use our biological selves to fill this void. This is where many people use food, eating in excess, physical activity until exhaustion, working hard without rest, compulsive behaviors, dangerous challenges, the use of prohibited substances, the search for sexual satisfaction, challenges to the authorities and the transformation of the body through tattoos, self-mutilation, body building, and self-starvation.
Hairstyle, makeup and all surgical procedures associated with unnecessary plastic surgery. But, there is also the same misguided behavior when we only love the mental part or the inner self, that which some call spirit, while others only recognize it as self, which produces the same feeling of emptiness.
This is a way to fill that void resulting from the lack of balance between our biological needs and our mental needs. You have to recognize that only the balance between the biological self and the mental self can fill the void that controls your life. One should not be above the other, because the moment we favor one over the other, our lives are out of balance.
When someone only pays attention to the mental self, they tend to sacrifice biological needs for mental ones where beliefs, excessive thoughts, fantasy, illusions, and compulsive ideas such as reading a lot, daydreaming, occupying time learning just to learn, and creating unrealistic goals, live in the mind
and spend all their time searching for existential spirituality, but they also seek perfection. Some Buddhist monks try to fill the “empty existence” of this life through meditations. a priest sacrifices the biological self, using faith and praying as a way to fill that void in life using religion for a better life, in a supernatural world, to give you some examples.
What are the first steps to overcome the feeling of emptiness that exists in your life?
When we talk about a feeling of emptiness, we are talking about a lack of internal energy, which is used in all that type of behavior, whether biologically or mentally motivated. Remember, the mind does not produce energy, it only mobilizes it, and when mentally in you there is no type of material or spiritual goal, this lack of movement of this internal energy is what produces that feeling of emptiness or paralysis in which you lose the sense of direction in life.
As a result of emotional suppression, whether learned or self-imposed, you have lost the ability to listen to the biological needs of your body through the different emotions associated with these needs. At the moment that you learn again to listen to your body and accept these emotions as part of you, you begin to put the needs of the body at the center of attention. This releases all that energy associated with emotions, which considerably fills that feeling of emptiness that dominates your life.
The moment you release your repressed emotions, you no longer have the need to fill that void by focusing on mental activities considered mental illnesses, which until now had been used as an escape mechanism to fill an emotional void.
The best way to defeat that feeling of emptiness that controls your life is to create a balance between biological needs and mental needs, as both are necessary for good mental health. As a human being, you have the right to feel pleasure, to dream, to feel fear, to feel sorrow, to express anger, to feel joy, and also to believe and think for yourself.